Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1431 H

When you look at your life, the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.
~Joyce Brothers

Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1431 H

Mohon Maaf Lahir dan Batin

Semoga kita semua bisa bertemu di bulan Ramadhan tahun selanjutnya, Amin.

The New Society in New Media in The Era of Democracy

In the era of Democracy, we (as public) are able to smell something fresh in our beloved country, Indonesia. What things that able to make us feel fresh in the newest system like democracy? Those things are, freedom of giving opinion through any mass media and freedom of the press. As we know, we have been indoctrinated by the goverment during the era of New Order (in Indonesia : Orde Baru). We have been indoctrinated that the policies of government were always right. In addition, we have never been given a chance to give criticism about the government and the policies. Ironically, the government also controlled the flow of information from mass media. The controlling of information (through mass media) was managed by the Mr. Soeharto and Departemen Penerangan. At that time, the content of the news from mass media was controlled by Departemen Penerangan. Yep, most of the news that we widely accepted is about the triumph of their policies. We were scarcely given about the negative things of government and policies. After controlling this country for 32 years, public were united to resist by holding a huge of demonstrations in all over Indonesia. Many demonstrations were held by college students, activists, and politicians at every level of society. I still remember that many chaos happened in every demonstration. And finally, Soeharto took off his duty as the president of Indonesia and then he was substituted by Mr. BJ. Habibie. We continously entered the door of new era, called by Era Reformasi, from 1998 until now. In Era Reformasi, we are able to feel the fresh smell of Democracy. This is indicated from freedom of the press and freedom of giving opinion.

Freedom of the press and giving opinion

Literally, press is the fourth pillar in democracy. This fact can be proven from many mass media grow up gradually in the end of 1998-1999. Entering the new period of 2000, mass media started to give something critical and skeptical about the government and the policies. There are almost no revocation and domination of the press by the government. If there were a little bit of revocation or domination of the press, the news would still be appeared critically. I guarantee for this.

Why do the press grow up freely and critically? Because of the system in Democracy. Democracy has been pushing the society, the press, and the government, to think, to speak, and to act critically. This means freedom of giving opinion. Speaking of this, the rule of giving opinion has been written in pasal 28 Undang-Undang Dasar 1945 and Undang-Undang Pers Nomor 40 Tahun 1999. That is why most of us are being more critical than most of us are in New Order. That is why many mass media are being more critical than mass media are in New Order. Moreover, we are able to show off our critical thinking through mass media. As Juergen Habermas said that mass media always will be the public sphere for public either in a democracy country or a non-democracy country. Yup, mass media always will be the watchdog of government and the public sphere for the society. Yet, mass media (newspaper, magazine, television, and radio) shall face and follow the flow of globalization, this includes how mass media could adapt with the improvement of technology in order to provide a lot of empty spheres for the society, due to the role of mass media as a public sphere.

The exist of social media networking sites

As a matter of fact, we all were faced by the improvement of technology during the 21st century. We aren't able to avoid any improvements of technology, especially for technology communication, e.g. internet, blackberry, Ipad, and many more. The improvement of technology communication brings the society all over the world to get closer with informations. The improvement of technology communication brings the society all over the world to keep updated and to keep connected with informations. And one thing for sure, the improvement of technology communication brings the society all over the world to react and to criticize either any kinds of policy or any kinds of government.

One easiest way that how we use the technology communication for giving critisism is by using the internet. By using the internet, we are able to talk, discuss, and share about what we thought. Moreover, currently, we find many free facilities (through the internet) to post our critical thinking. Those free facilities are called by social media networking sites. How many social media networking sites that have been provided for us? Social media networking sites are getting many more and more, such as facebook, twitter, multiply, and any sorts of. Can you imagine that how many people in the world use all those social media networking sites in every day? I think, almost all humans in the world use social media networking sites to support their life needs, especially in terms of our right to get information as many as possible.

The civilization of human has already changed. Human needs the improvement of technology communication to support their life. Human needs the internet to make their life more efficiency and more practical. Human needs social media networking sites to describe about what they thought into the words. One thing, for sure, Human believes that social media networking sites have fully strength to change the world. In social media networking sites, human are united to be – what we called by – mass society or public. Therefore, public comes recently as the new society in the new media.

According to the passage above, the new society has emerged which accompanied by social media networking sites as the new media. The new media has unexpected characteristics and unexpected functions in every aspect of life. One of unexpected characteristics is critical public. The more critical our society, the more loudly we speak, through social media sites. The more loudly we speak, the more changes we get. Besides an unexpected characteristic, the new media also produced unexpected functions. An unexpected function will always be appearing in the changes of mass media, including the exist of social media networking sites. Like two concepts that given by Robert K. Merton (one of sociologist), these two concepts are manifest function and latent function. Manifest function is an expected function that arise from the change. Whereas, latent function is an unexpected function that arise from the change.


One of unexpected functions is many policies had been canceled because of our voices and our opinions in the new media. This means, sometimes we need talking too much on every social media networking sites, because mass media will help to highlight our voices to the government. And many policies had been canceled because of our voices on social media networking sites. Guys, do you still remember about Bibit-Chandra’s Case? Prita Mulyasari’s Case? Dana Aspirasi’s Case? these facts show that our voices (on social media networking sites) will be giving much influences to the making process of any policies. The example cases (such as Bibit-Chandra’s Case, Prita Mulyasari’s Case, and Dana Aspirasi’s Case) describe how the new society can change and refuse either the government or the policies through social media networking sites. By giving voices on social media networking sites, we don't judge the government negatively, we only express voice of the voiceless.

People who always be called with FRIENDS

From : thoughtquestions.com

I only have few friends who can be trusted and trust with me :)

Si Fotografer yang Perlu Diasah

Saya sudah berniat untuk mengasah kemampuan fotografi saya saat berlibur ke dua pulau, yakni pulau Bali dan pulau Sumbawa. Sayangnya, foto-foto yang sukses hanya bisa dihitung dengan jari. Sementara, kebanyakan foto yang di-upload ke facebook adalah sebagian besar hasil jepretan adik yang lebih mahir ketimbang saya. Saya memang butuh ketekunan dan kesabaran yang lebih banyak untuk belajar fotografi. Beginilah hasilnya..

Saya ingin menghasilkan foto siluet, tapi kali ini gagal.

Niatnya, saya ingin mempraktekkan teknik freezing, tapi apa daya, kurang fokus dan kurang pakai perasaan atau hati saat memotret.

Ini satu-satunya yang berhasil

Mari belajar fotografi!

Namanya, Bima

Pernah dengar Bima? Hmm.. Mungkin kalian terlalu sering mendengar Bali, Lombok, Papua, Makassar, ya kan? Kalaupun ada sering mendengar, pastilah kalian tau pasti bahwa Bima merupakan salah satu kota yang terletak di Pulau Sumbawa pada Provinsi Nusa Tenggara Barat (NTB). Jauh? Hmm.. Cukup jauh, karena kalau kita terbang pakai pesawat, tentu harus transit di Bali, kemudian melanjutkan perjalanan selama satu jam untuk sampai di bandara Sultan Muhammad Salahuddin, kota Bima. Mari saya ajak kalian untuk mengenal sedikit lebih dalam mengenai kota Bima, bukan kabupaten Bima.

Letak Geografis Bima

Kota Bima terletak di bagian timur Pulau Sumbawa pada posisi 118°41'00"-118°48'00" Bujur Timur dan 8°20'00"-8°30'00" Lintang Selatan. Keterangan ini saya ambil dari wikipedia, lantaran saya tidak tahu persis letak geografis kampung halaman ayah ini. Ya, dikarenakan posisi kota Bima berada di bagian timur, alhasil batas-batas wilayah kota Bima adalah sebagai berikut:

1. Bagian utara, kota Bima berbatasan dengan Kecamatan Ambalawi dan Kabupaten Bima;

2. Bagian selatan, kota Bima berbatasan dengan Kecamatan Palibelo dan Kabupaten Bima;

3. Bagian barat, kota Bima berbatasan langsung dengan teluk Bima;

4. Bagian timur, kota Bima berbatasan dengan Kecamatan Wawo dan Kabupaten Bima.

Dilihat dari wilayah-wilayah yang membatasinya, kota Bima juga memiliki keuntungan lainnya, yakni posisinya berbatasan langsung dengan teluk Bima. Akibatnya, ia dikelilingi oleh laut dan pantai.

Penggunaan Bahasa Bima

"Bahasa Bima itu tidak bisa ditulis dan hanya bisa diungkapkan", begitulah penuturan ayah saya mengenai bahasa Bima. Kalaupun bahasa Bima ditulis, akan menghasilkan makna yang berbeda, atau biasa kita sebut dengan kesalahpahaman. Mengapa bisa terjadi seperti ini? Seperti saya pernah jelaskan pada blog saya (perihal materi-materi kuliah) bahwa bahasa merupakan hasil dari kesepakatan-kesepakatan manusia dalam bersosialiasi.

"Dilihat dari fungsinya, bahasa merupakan alat yang dimiliki bersama untuk mengungkapkan gagasan (socially shared), karena bahasa hanya dapat dipahami apabila ada kesepakatan di antara anggota-anggota kelompok sosial untuk menggunakannya. Bahasa diungkapkan dengan kata-kata dan kata-kata tersebut sering diberi arti arbiter (semaunya)", kutipan ini diambil dari bukunya Deddy Mulyana yang berjudul Komunikasi AntarBudaya.

Artinya, wajar saja apabila bahasa Bima dituliskan, maka tak jarang menimbulkan kesalahpahaman makna, lantaran kebanyakan masyarakat Bima menggunakannya secara lisan. Misalnya saja, penulisan nama salah satu penganan khas Bima yang tepat, yakni Pangaha Punga, terkadang ada orang-orang yang menuliskannya menjadi Pangaha Bunga, sehingga maknanya pun akan berbeda. Oleh sebab itu, bahasa Bima lebih baik dan lebih sering diucapkan ketimbang dituliskan.

Uniknya, di dalam bahasa Bima, ada sebuah kosakata yang memiliki beraneka macam makna dan bisa digunakan pengucapannya dalam situasi yang berbeda-beda pula. Contohnya, Kalembo Ade, satu-satunya kosakata yang seringkali diucapkan oleh masyarakat Bima untuk berbagai macam makna. Salah dua makna dari Kalembo Ade ialah "sabar ya" dan "maaf saya tidak bisa membantu".

Penganan Khas Bima

Meskipun kota kecil, tetapi cita rasa kue-kue khas Bima tidak kalah lezatnya. Jikalau kalian mampir ke kota Bima, janganlah lupa untuk mencicipi penganan khas Bima, seperti Bingka Dolu (rasa gula merah dan pandan), Kahangga, Pangaha Punga, Buras, dan sebagainya.

Kue Buras (foto ini diambil oleh saya sendiri)

Kahangga (foto ini diambil oleh adik saya)

Pangaha Punga (foto ini diambil oleh adik saya)

Bingka Dolu rasa pandan (foto ini diambil oleh adik saya)

Selain kue-kue kering dan basah, Bima juga terkenal akan madu asli dan bandeng presto khas Bima. Madunya tidak terlalu manis. Bandeng presto khas Bima juga tidak menggunakan sambal terasi. Karena, ada beberapa sambal khas Bima yang biasa dinikmati oleh masyarakat kota Bima, di antaranya adalah Sambal Doco Tomat dan Sambal Dungga. Rasa kedua sambal itu asam. Terlebih lagi, Sambal Doco Tomat yang terkadang menggunakan mangga muda di dalamnya. Hmm.. bisa dibayangkan betapa asamnya, bukan?

Bandeng presto khas Bima (foto ini diambil oleh saya sendiri)



Sambal Doco Tomat tanpa mangga (foto ini diambil oleh saya sendiri)

Tempat Wisata di Bima

Bima juga tidak kalah menariknya dengan Bali atau Lombok. Karena, Bima dikelilingi oleh laut dan memiliki banyak pantai yang masih perawan. Mengapa saya simpulkan pantai yang masih perawan? Sebab, beberapa pantai tersebut masih asli dengan air yang jenih dan pasir yang putih bersih serta belum adanya investor baik lokal maupun asing yang menyentuh pantai-pantai tersebut. Beberapa pantai yang masih perawan di Bima adalah pantai Kalaki, pantai Wera, pantai Sape, dan masih banyak lagi yang belum saya kunjungi.

Pasir Kalaki (foto ini diambil oleh adik saya)

Laut Kalaki (foto ini diambil oleh adik saya)

Pantai Sape (foto ini diambil sepupu saya, Tya, sewaktu ia berkunjung ke sana)

Buah Tangan dan Transportasi khas Bima

Jikalau kalian ingin membeli cinderamata khas Bima, kalian bisa membeli songket Bima yang bermotifkan bunga, geometri, dan didukung dengan sentuhan berbagai macam warna yang cantik. Walaupun songket Bima memiliki ragam motif yang sedikit, namun apabila kalian penggemar songket-songket dari berbagai daerah di Indonesia, tidak ada salahnya songket Bima dijadikan sebagai salah satu koleksi kalian.

Selain songket, terdapat pula mutiara sebagai salah satu budidaya yang diunggulkan dari Bima. Bima memang salah satu daerah penghasil mutiara terbaik di Indonesia. Namun, ketika kita hendak membeli mutiara dan songket Bima, ada baiknya kita ditemani warga asli Bima agar dapat mengetahui dan memilih kualitas yang baik dengan harga yang terjangkau.

Berbicara mengenai transportasi, Bima masih mengandalkan transportasi tradisionalnya, terutama benhur dan bemo. Pertama, bemo itu mirip angkot di Jakarta, tarifnya juga kurang lebih sama, dan hanya saja para supir bemo selalu mendendangkan musik dangdut keras-keras, jadi bersabarlah bagi kalian yang tidak biasa. Kedua, benhur merupakan transportasi sejenis andong, seperti di Jakarta. Ya, Benhur adalah kendaraan umum dengan menggunakan tenaga kuda dan masih digunakan oleh kebanyakan masyarakat Bima. Di Jakarta ada andong, di Jogja ada dokar, di Lombok ada cidomo, di Bima ada benhur, dan Indonesia memang kaya akan bahasa.

Akan tetapi, satu hal yang membuat hati saya sedih adalah semakin merajalelanya ojek sebagai salah satu transportasi masyarakat Bima. Di samping kelebihannya sebagai akomodasi yang tercepat dan murah, ojek dapat menjangkau jauh atau tidaknya baik kota Bima maupun kabupaten Bima. Jadi, wajar saja tingkat polusi udara di Bima semakin meningkat, oleh karena debu-debu yang tak terhindarkan.

Satu hal lagi yang perlu dicatat, janganlah kalian mencari Mall atau any other modern retail minimarkets, karena Bima masih sangat mengandalkan sisi tradisional mereka. Dan jangan mencari fast food restaurant, meskipun sayangnya, Bima kecolongan satu produk fast food yang mendirikan cabangnya di salah satu sudut kota Bima. Mudah-mudahan tidak akan ada lagi. Amin.

Jadi, tunggu apalagi? Silahkan berkunjung ke Bima dan ditunggu kedatangan kalian! :)

Dyane, Si Serba Salah

Dia seorang pengajar tidak tetap di sebuah universitas. Dia seorang berjenis kelamin perempuan yang akan bertambah umurnya di bulan Agustus ini. Perempuan yang hobinya membaca buku itu, entah apapun itu jenis bukunya, tidak cantik dan tidak pintar. Lebih tepatnya, menurut penuturan teman-temannya, dia biasa-biasa saja. Ya, biasanya orang memberikan level biasa-biasa saja dikarenakan tidak adanya sesuatu yang unik atau spesial pada sesuatu atau seseorang. So plain and flat, huh?

Namun, hidupnya tidak sedatar yang dibayangkan. Fluktuatif. Ibarat Indeks Harga Saham Gabungan (IHSG) yang tidak selalu stabil, melainkan naik turun atau fluktuatif. Perempuan ini senang sekali menggambarkan bahwa my life is flat, fluctuate yet. Sebut saja nama perempuan ini, Putri Dyane Rajnamitha. Dia lebih senang dipanggil Dyane, ketimbang Putri, alasannya nama panggilan Putri sudah terlalu jamak dan terlalu pasaran.

Seperti yang telah diceritakan sepenggal di atas tadi, hidup Dyane fluktuatif. Hidupnya fluktuatif sejak dia tahu bahwa dirinya bukan anak sembarang orang biasa. Dia sadar bahwa dia berasal dan dilahirkan dari orang bukan biasa, tetapi orang yang terlalu spesial. Dia sadar bahwa dirinya adalah putri seorang politikus senior di negeri yang tengah berkembang ini. Lucunya, hal ini baru ia sadari ketika dirinya menginjakkan kakinya di bangku Sekolah Menengah Atas (SMA). Artinya, dia betul-betul sadar seberapa penting peranan ayahnya di negeri ini dan seberapa besar cobaan yang akan ia hadapi selama ia masih hidup.

Sebenarnya Dyane sendiri tidak terlalu suka bahwa ia seorang putri politikus. Oke, bukan bermaksud tidak bersyukur, akan tetapi kenyataan ini terkadang menambah beban yang ada di punggung Dyane. Mau tidak mau, Dyane harus menerima kenyataan pahit ini. Mengapa Dyane mengatakan bahwa hal tersebut adalah kenyataan pahit? Hal ini lantaran ia harus siap menjadi contoh yang baik dan membawa nama baik ayah ibunya di lingkungan masyarakat.

Dyane feels her life look like the waves in the sea

Sebagai putri tertua di keluarganya dan putri politikus, ia sadar betul bahwa ia harus memberikan contoh yang baik kepada adiknya khususnya, dan kepada lingkungan masyarakat umumnya. Tak jarang, selama hidupnya, ia melakukan kesalahan sebagaimana yang dilakukan oleh para remaja lainnya. Tak jarang pula, Dyane dihadapkan pada berbagai terpaan masalah, dan masalah-masalah tersebut tentunya berkaitan dengan posisinya sebagai putri sang politikus.

Terpaan masalah-masalah yang datang beraneka macam bentuk dan sifatnya. Misalnya saja, masalah beberapa teman yang secara gamblang iri dengan kehidupan Dyane. Ya, Alhamdulillah, kehidupan Dyane lebih dari cukup baik secara materiil maupun nonmateriil. Secara nonmateriil, Dyane sangat bersyukur, sebab ia berasal dari dua kultur yang berbeda, yakni Sunda dan Bima. Ditambah lagi bahwa masing-masing kakek dari ayah dan ibunya juga merupakan tokoh masyarakat pada eranya dan pada bidangnya tersendiri. Dyane hanya bisa mengucapkan syukur Alhamdulillah atas nikmat-Nya lantaran dilahirkan dari dua keluarga besar terpandang di daerahnya masing-masing .

Akibatnya, Dyane terkadang merasa serba salah, jikalau ia mengundang teman-temannya untuk berkunjung ke rumahnya atau bahkan menginap di kampung halamannya. Dyane terkadang bingung, mengapa ada beberapa temannya yang iri kepadanya. Padahal, perempuan polos ini tidak punya apa-apa, selain keluarga. Berbicara tentang keluarga, Dyane tidak pernah lupa atas pesan moral yang ia dapatkan dari sebuah sinetron, Keluarga Cemara, yang selalu berprinsip bahwa keluarga adalah harta yang paling terindah melebihi emas atau berlian sekalipun.

Jeleknya Dyane, ia teramat polos. Saking polosnya, terkadang ia tidak bisa membedakan mana teman yang benar-benar tulus dan mana teman yang hanya memanfaatkan dirinya untuk kepentingan tertentu. Sehingga, dalam hal kisah asmara, Dyane selalu gagal menemukan lelaki yang baik dan tulus kepada dirinya. Maka dari itu, Dyane pun berjanji untuk tidak gegabah mencari atau dicarikan lelaki, karena menurutnya hal itu menjadi prioritas paling terakhir di dalam hidupnya.

Terkadang Dyane juga bertanya dalam hati, 'apa yang dicemburui oleh beberapa temanku dari diriku? toh, aku tidak punya apa-apa, sementara kehidupan beberapa temanku itu jauh lebih baik dibandingkan diriku'.

Dyane juga selalu berbicara pada dirinya, 'mengapa orang-orang itu harus iri? bukankah Tuhan sudah menciptakan garis hidup pada masing-masing manusia secara adil? Ah, tidak adil rasanya memiliki musuh, karena aku tidak suka'.

Atau pada situasi lain, ketika neneknya memberikan buah tangan berupa penganan khas daerah asal ibunya, dan parahnya sang nenek, entah lupa atau kehabisan stok, tidak membagikan penganan tersebut kepada sepupu-sepupunya Dyane. Dengan kata lain, hanya ia dan adik perempuan satu-satunya, Canista, yang mendapat penganan khas tersebut. Lebih parahnya lagi, ketika para sepupu dan uwaknya mengetahui keberadaan oleh-oleh spesial untuk Dyane serta Canista, mereka pun (para sepupu dan uwaknya) langsung merujuk, membujuk, dan tentu saja protes pada sang nenek. Dyane pun menjadi serba salah dalam keadaan seperti itu, apalagi ketika para sepupunya dan uwaknya iri dengan perlakuan khusus sang nenek terhadap dirinya. Malang benar nasib kau, Dyane, selalu dicemburui oleh orang-orang.

Tidak hanya dicemburui oleh beberapa temannya dan beberapa sanak saudaranya, tetapi juga dengan beberapa orang di luar sana yang tidak suka dengan keharmonisan rumah tangga ayah ibunya, atau bahkan saingan sang ayah di dunia politikus. Tidak jarang keluarga Dyane mendapat hibah yang tidak menyenangkan, yakni teror. Siapa yang suka teror? Pasti, tidak ada satu pun yang suka teror di dunia ini. Sang ayah seringkali kecolongan teror, mulai dari pesan singkat melalui telepon genggam sampai dengan kebocoran ban mobil yang dilakukan secara sengaja oleh seseorang. Atau misalnya saja, ada orang yang ingin menjatuhkan karir ayahandanya dengan menyebarkan sisi-sisi negatifnya kepada masyarakat. Kalau sudah begini, Dyane tak jarang berpikir, 'aku lebih baik jadi masyarakat biasa dan bukan siapa-siapa, maaf Tuhan kalau aku tidak bersyukur'.

Begitulah kisah hidup Dyane yang teramat simple, tetapi fluktuatif dan selalu serba salah. Jadi, apa yang perlu dicemburui dari kehidupan Dyane?

a complaining post

I realize that everybody has their problems. I realize that everybody has difficulty level on their problems. I know that I have to be strong, tough, and mature to face all shit things in my life. I know that I shouldn't have to complain for every problem that comes to my life. I know that I have to be thankful for everything from Allah. For million times, there's only one thing that I want to do, I want to share all my thoughts, I want to complain all my shit things, I want to ask all my questions, and I want to be listened by someone either with my best friends or my another family member. All I need is someone or anyone who wants to listen my sad songs. All I need is sharing with someone or anyone who wants to listen my trashy sad stories. I'm not a drama queen. I never hope that I would find a happiness like in a romantic tale story. I never hope that my life would be wonderful like every princess in the world. I never hope that my life would be a happy ending story like cinderella. Dear Allah, I want to live with simple living, even though there would be many problems, at least I want to be listened by anyone who wants to listen my trashy sad stories.

Hello life! Hello problems!

Life, I have bravery to struggle with all problems

Life, I have a big confidence to solve all problems

Life, I have a big heart to deal with all problems

Life, I have a strong body to face all problems

Life, I have a masculinity inside of my femininity to meet with all problems

This photo is taken from my dad's folder, he was seeing sunset in Kaimana, Papua

Life, I have a powerful soul to stand and give a sincere smile to all problems

Life, I have a cheerful smile to say "hello" to all problems

Life, I have a great laugh to laugh to all problems

Life, I have great friends to accompany me and to be my shoulder to find out the solution from all problems

Life, I have Allah SWT to help me out from all problems

This post is dedicated for everyone who has problem and never feel tired to face all problems.. :)

A letter to my sister

To my beloved sister,

Since we were kid, I've believed that we would build a good friendship like all people do with their sister or brother.
Since we were kid, I've promised with myself to protect you from crimes and dangers in my whole life.
Since we were kid, I've told to myself that I would be a good sister and a role model for you.

I'm sure, no matter how big the storm hit either you or our family, you would stand up with your own feet.
I'm sure, no matter how big the rock hit either you or our family, you would say : "I'm still strong".
I'm sure, no matter how big the storm hit either you or our family, you would prove that you are fine as much as you can.
I'm sure, no matter how big the rock hit either you or our family, you would keep smiling, laughing, and also doing something fun yet useful.




This afternoon, I saw you that you couldn't stop laughing with me and our parents..
This afternoon, I saw you that you couldn't stop smiling to anyone around you..
This afternoon, I saw you that you couldn't stop eating something delicious..
This afternoon, I saw you that you couldn't stop acting very spoiled to us..
This afternoon, I saw you that you couldn't stop playing Scrabble with me..
This afternoon, I saw you that you didn't want to miss any seconds or any minutes with us.. This afternoon, I saw you that you didn't let me to be the winner at Scrabble.. (hehehe)

Well, this is not a poem, this is only what's on my mind, and this is my thought at this time.. Anyway, selamat merayakan hari Nyepi bagi para bloggers yang merayakannya! Always be peaceful with love!

Hidup = abstrak, rumit, dan indah

Hidup itu memang abstrak.
Abstrak karena kita selalu berhadapan dengan berbagai pertanyaan.
Abstrak karena kita terkadang belum mendapatkan jawaban atas berbagai pertanyaan yang ada.
Abstrak karena semuanya masih abu-abu.
Abstrak karena kita belum mendapatkan kejelasan dan kepastian tentang apa sih hidup itu dan apa tujuannya?.

foto ini dibuat oleh fanny

Hidup itu memang rumit.
Rumit karena kita selalu menghadapi masalah.
Rumit karena masalah yang datang tidak hanya satu, tetapi dua atau bahkan lebih dari dua.
Rumit karena kita selalu berhadapan dengan pilihan.
Rumit karena ketika kita sudah memutuskan sebuah pilihan, maka kita harus menerima segala konsekuensinya, baik dan buruk.

Hidup itu pada akhirnya akan indah.
Indah karena kita telah mengetahui jawaban atas semua pertanyaan.
Indah karena kita telah menerima jawaban tersebut dengan lapang dada dan ikhlas.
Indah karena kita bisa lulus melewati segala macam masalah dengan tenang dan pikiran dingin.
Indah karena kita bisa memutuskan sesuatu hal dengan segala konsekuensinya.
Indah karena kita selalu tegar dan sabar dalam menjalankan hidup.
Indah karena kita selalu memberi kepada orang lain.
Indah karena kita selalu meminta perlindungan kepada Allah SWT.

foto ini diambil oleh fanny

He's Just Not That Into You

"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.." --- by Gigi

The passage above is a quote which is taken from He's Just Not That Into You. This quote is given by Gigi after she won the game of love with Alex, and she became his exception. I never feel bored to see every scene in that movie for million times. He's Just Not That Into You is a good with movie with suprising plot, stories, and ideas about love. We're all taught not only about the definition of love, but also how to play the game of love, including who will be the role and who will be the exception of its game. This movie knows what men want and what women want. I'm sure you guys have watched this movie, haven't you? I don't mean to recommend, but it's another side of myself to show off how great the movie is.

a great short conversation

I had a great short conversation last night with someone. Here is..

Me : I never imagine when I will be married by someone, because I don't want marry with
someone early. I have to consider all things, not only love to share with someone, but also
our thought, vision, mission, money, and many others. I'm not ready at all for a marriage.

Him: Me too, i've to finish my study, insya Allah next year. And then, I've to look for a job, I
should have much money to propose someone. I don't want to marry someone if I still
still don't have any money. We have to live logically and realistic, not in a dream. In the
past, I used to play in every day, now I didn't want to play anymore. Because I'm getting
older and i want to be the leader in my family.

Actually, there are many topics that we talked about last night. And what I wrote above is the best part conversation that I love. Anyway, nice to meet you, nice to talk with you! :)

a bit touch editing

1) Karin, Didiet, and me sat in front of gold bullion at Museum Bank Indonesia

2) Dodi and Didiet photographed themselves














3) Hanum had a bowl of frozen yoghurt yesterday

4) Froyo as our snack in yesterday evening
















5) My parents were photographed by my sister

Recently, I'm interested in editing photos by using adobe photoshop. I don't know why I love editing photos by now. I'm not an expert of photography like my little sister. Fanny, my little sister, is very good at taking pictures and editing photos. I'm proud of her. I do love being a photographer, even though all my photos are not good as hers. I also love being an object who will be captured by the camera. Well, talking about my new interest, i want to show all the photos which has been edited by myself. Leave your comment, please!

I hate being left by my best friends

Saya paling benci kehilangan seseorang. Saya paling benci ditinggal oleh seseorang, apalagi jika saya ditinggal keluarga dan sahabat. Dulu, saya pernah ditinggal sahabat saya, Mega. Dia pergi ninggalin saya bukan karena dia jahat sama saya. Tetapi dia menuntut ilmu di kota kelahirannya para filsuf dunia, seperti Immanuel Kant dan Karl Marx. Ya, tepat sekali. Mega beralih ingin menginjakkan kakinya di Jerman. Saya lupa persisnya tahun berapa dia meninggalkan tanah air. Kalau tidak salah 2006 atau 2007. Tapi, saya sedih sekali pada malam hari menjelang kepergiannya.

this is me and mega

Saat ini saya sedang sedih karena Dian, salah satu sahabat saya, akan meninggalkan kota Bekasi untuk bekerja di Cirebon. Dia diterima di salah satu hotel berbintang di kota Cirebon dan akan bekerja sebagai management trainee, yang sesuai dengan latar belakang jurusannya, yaitu psikologi.

this is me and dian

I hate being left by my bestfriends. Because it's not easy for me to call my friend as best friend. Because it's not easy to find some people who can be trusted as best friend. Because it's not easy to tell our problem to other people than to our best friend. Because other people are not honest as our best friend. Who doesn't hate the situation like this? I'm the one who does. But, this is how life is supposed to be. In our whole life, we'll meet with many people with their different personalities. However, we never forget our bestfriend indeed . And i think, perhaps it's the best choice for them to be a success woman. I'll be proud of my bestfriends who could be success in the future. One day, we'll meet again by bringing our goals and achievements. Amin.

Meryl Streep

Meryl Streep is one of my favorite actress. I adore her since Meryl Streep starred in The Devil Wears Prada by 2006. The Devil Wears Prada is a drama romance yet a bit of comedy movie. In The Devil Wears Prada, I was amazed by her as the executive editor in Runway fashion magazine. She looks so sophisticated.


In 2008, I was amazed by her in Mamma Mia! Even if Mamma Mia! is a musical movie and this movie is dedicated for those who are big fans of ABBA, but i don't mind, i always love to see Meryl Streep! In Mamma Mia!, Meryl Streep plays as a mother of Sophie who is about to be married by a young Greek man (huh, i forget his name!). Without telling her mother, Sophie invites three men who could be her father, they are Harry, Bill, and Sam. One point i love to see from this movie is the scenery of Greek Island, sooo pretty, also beautiful!



Recently, i watched Meryl Streep in Julie and Julia. Julie and Julia is a biography drama comedy movie. This movie is based on true stories which is from two books, the books are My Life in France (Julia Child's autobiography) and Julie & Julia (a memoir which is written by Julie Powell). She plays as Julia Child, a real-life character. This movie tells about Julia's and Julie's life. In 1949, Julia as the wife of a diplomat, wonders how to spend her days. Julia decides to have a cooking course in Cordon Bleu. She starts cooking until she is a master of cooking then published her book with her friends. This book is "Mastering The Art of Cooking". In 2002, Julie Powell, a young housewife who doesn't have a passion with her job, tries to cook all the recipes from "Mastering The Art of Cooking" in a year then publish it in a blog "The Julie/Julia Project" (do you want to see julie's blog?click here). In short, the similarity among Julia and Julie is a good housewife with a great ability to cook, because every woman must be good at cooking to be loved by their husbands.

Guys, from three movies above, there is a similiarity about Meryl Streep. The similiarity is Meryl Streep is always paired with the new young actresses. In The Devil Wears Prada, Anne Hathaway is paired with Meryl Streep, Anne plays as the asisstant of Meryl. Then, In Mamma Mia!, Amanda Seyfried is paired with Meryl Streep as her daughter. Same as the previous movies, Meryl Streep is paired with Amy Adams, although they are never in one frame. So, who will be the next actress to be paired with Meryl Streep? We'll wait and we'll see another Meryl Streep movie! :)

The Ramen Girl and Brittany Murphy

Few days ago, like our routine in the weekend, my sister and i always spend the holiday or weekend by watching some movies at home. A movie that we have chosen to rent was The Ramen Girl. The Ramen Girl tells about Abby (Brittany Murphy), an aimless child of privilege, comes to Tokyo to be with her boyfriend, who promptly leaves for Osaka. I can't believe how dare her boyfriend leaves Abby alone in Tokyo.

Abby wants to stay in Tokyo in hoping her boyfriend will come back to her, but she's miserable in Tokyo. Abby can't speak Japanese properly and she always speaks by using English, not Japanese! Abby has a boring job as a law-firm gopher. One night, she came in to the ramen shop which is very close to her flat. When she was arriving at there, she cried and told to the owner of the ramen shop. And you know what, she cried and told by using English! not Japanese! Of course, the owner didn't know what to do because both of them didn't understand any English words. Sounds soo silly, isn't it?

The owner of the ramen shop is a couple. They are the aging master chef Maezumi and his wife Reiko. His soup cheers Abby up, so she decides to apprentice herself to him. He's not interested with Abby at all, but Abby is still insistent, so he shouts at her and gives her all the cleaning work to do. Weeks go by. She's persistent. She is trying to do her best to prove that she can make a bowl of ramen. Abby is still trying to prove in order to chef Maezumi will teach how to make a delicious ramen for the customer. Is she able to prove that she deserve to be the next generation of chef Maezumi?

Well, i can't say how the ending part of this movie. I won't say on my post, so you all have curiousity to watch The Ramen Girl. I'll continue to tell about another part of this movie. The Ramen Girl teaches us about how to survive and do the best for our work, so we can get the money and we can live happily because we love our job. The Ramen Girl is released on October 2008, one year before the main cast died on December 2009. Ya, i'm talking about Brittany Murphy. For your info, in this movie, Brittany Murphy is the only one actress from Hollywood among the Japanese actor also actress. So, this movie is unique and funny. Unique, because Brittany (as Hollywood actress) plays as the servant of Japanese to help their ramen shop. Abby must learn about their Japan language and their culture to be suit around them. Funny, because of Brittany's act in this movie. Unfortunately, we can't see her act again. Besides The Ramen Girl, she has starred in many movies, for example: Happy Feet, Just Married, Uptown Girls, Tinker Bell, and many more. A young and talented actress has died on December 2009. May God always keep her in a rest peace. amin.

Bye, brittany, we love you!

all quotes are so mine

Quote is something to state our life by using a sentence, in my definition. Quote is something important for me to express what i think about life. I can stand up by using all quote. I can see all problems from different view by using all quote. Here are all quotes that very suitable in my life.

"don't judge a book by its cover"-anonymous

"I don't want to be the best, but, I'm only be able to help people around me"-this one is made by myself

"Some people dream of success, others make it happen, let me be the people who makes it happen!"-anonymous

"A room without books is like a body without a soul."
— Marcus Tullius Cicero

"Lebih baik diasingkan daripada menyerah pada kemunafikan"-Gie

"Say what you mean, mean what you say"-George Smith Patton, Jr.


"Say what you mean, mean what you say, don't say it mean"-this quote is taken from Second Chance by Jane Green

"Real friends can be defined as friends who aren't rivals, aren't pretending to be friendly to find work, aren't judging you for how famous you are"-this quote is taken from Second Chance by Jane Green

"If you judge about me too much, don't claim yourself as my real friend"-This is one is made by myself"-this one is made by myself too!

"The most successful people are those who are good at plan B"-James Yorke (i saw this quote in one of articles on Kompas)

"Life is a book. Everyday has a new page with adventure to tell, lessons to learn, and tales to remember"-this one is made by myself

Some of my quotes tell about friendship, life, and success.

Soulmate

Before i start telling what i'll write in my blog at this moment, i'm thinking for a while: "should i tell you all about soulmate?". I'm a bit ashamed to talk about someone will be called by myself as soulmate. Ok, where do i start?

Couple days ago, i met with one of my college friends, she is Nova. She told me that she is being proposed by someone. Wow, i was sooo happy and glad to listen her story about being proposed by a great man. When she told about the man (who proposes her to be his wife), i was wondering the man must be lucky to propose nova, so did Nova. I saw her excitement from her face. I saw her happiness from a slow tempo that she uses to tell. I also was excited to listen every part of her story about being proposed. Because, i have never felt how exactly my feeling for being proposed by someone. But, I think, If I were being proposed by the right man, I would be very blissful, full of happiness, and i couldn't describe my feeling by using any words.

On that day, i spent some hours with Nova by sharing lot of stories. It was such a great day to share lot of stories. But, there was a question (from Nova) which is i hate enough to answer. Soory to say, nov. She asked me, "when will you have a boyfriend?or partner?". At that time, i had realized one thing that all my besties already have their right men to be their boyfriend first, not partner in life. And one thing that i realize is all my besties are very affectionate to take care of me, including Nova. All my besties are never bored to ask me about my future partner or who my boyfriend is at right now. Perhaps, i'm getting bored to be asked by everyone.


I don't know when i will have the right man to be my boyfriend firstly. Because of my past, i'm a bit careful to choose which one is the best man to be with me, or which one is the most suitable man to spend some hours, some days, and some weeks with me, my family, and his family too. Actually, I don't want to fall into the same hole again like what i did in my previous relationship. It made me hurt. Well, i'm not trying to dramatize my story in past. Not hurt. But, at least I could feel a bit of happiness in a beautiful relationship. Ok, not beautiful. I know that every relationship has their own way, has their story, has their sadness, not always happiness in their relationship. Ok, i'll stop to debate about definitions of relationship with my own mind.

Back to the main topic. Soulmate. Some people say that being twenty or twenties is something hard. I do feel the same like everybody. Because, there are many questions which is always buzz in our ears, for example : "when will you get your master degree?", "when will you get married?", "when will you get the best job with good salary?", and also "what criteria to be your husband?do you try to get the best man?". Oh, my god, see? it's quiet hard to answer, not like exam or thesis defension at college. But, a question that i always find is "is there any criteria to be your husband or soulmate?". I'll answer: "Yes, I do have few criteria for someone who wants to be my soulmate".

I always wonder some criteria to be my future partner. He must be a good muslim to guide me as a good muslim too. He must be affectionate to his family, me, and my family. He must be smarter than me in every aspects. Or sometimes, I wonder that he could play the words in scrabble together with me and my future son or daughter. Sometimes, I wonder that he could take exercise together in every evening and every saturday-sunday morning. Sometimes, I wonder that he could spend our spare time by reading book or watching movie or cooking at home. Sounds wonderful, isn't it?

Oh, my.. what post i did write above, ok, for anyone who reads my blog, especially my this silly post. I beg you not to laugh while you're reading this silly post. Thank you!